How Divorce affects children
How Divorce affects children
How many families do you know that are divorced? In today’s world it is very common and can follow many hardships on a child. Research shows in 2022, that approximately 37% of marriages end in divorce ( Previteta line 28-29). In this blog I hope to inform parents on the behavioral issues that a child may face during a divorce. Not every child will react the same way,but I will talk about most actions that they do encounter.
Children of parents who are going through a divorce often show a lot of physical behavioral traits. This can include anger, anxiety,fear, and grief.” Kids can act out the stages of grief, they will be in denial about the divorce, and angry about how it affects them”(Lehman lines 44-46). It is not uncommon for a child to act out the stages of grief when parents are going through a divorce. It is important to look out for all of these signs so that you know how to help them.
Some actions may be”verbal or physical acting out, increased defiance, school problems, and frustration with siblings or the residing parent” (Lehman lines 53-56). As parents you should understand that when you first announce the divorce, that a child will feel insecurity about what the future may be like. A lot of the kids may ask themselves; Will I be able to do the same things?Are we going to have enough food? In the kids mind, they register that the money now has to be split into two different households. This is a reason why they may ask themselves these questions.
Children from divorced families may experience more” externalizing problems such as conduct disorders, delinquency, and impulsive behaviors”(Morin lines 100-103) than kids from two parent families. It is also not uncommon to perform poorly in academic settings. Children may struggle in school, and it can affect their grades. They can face behavioral problems at home, but during school they may act out the most. You can help kids adjust by making sure you are co-parenting peacefully, using constant discipline, and using positive communication.
In conclusion, parents need to remember that it is not uncommon for behavioral traits to come out while going through a divorce. Patience is necessary, and always remember that there are other resources out there like therapists, and family to help out if needed. Just remember to monitor the kids closely and pay attention to what they may be trying to communicate with you through their actions.
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